Guilt

Flower essence support for processing feelings of guilt

Guilt is a feeling that may have different types of causations. Generally, it is the feeling that you did something bad or unacceptable and you are judging yourself for it. Sometimes, however, it may not be yours to deal with.

Sometimes you need to take actions for the greater good. You may feel guilty about breaking up a relationship, but even though it was difficult, you might not feel regret because you believe it was for the best.

One of guilt’s gifts to you is that it helps you realize something for which you would like to either atone or do differently in the future. If you make amends for something you did, it can repair and allow a relationship to strengthen and grow. If it provokes you to do something different in the future, guilt can aid you in creating wisdom from your experiences.

We all make mistakes sometimes and, if we are lucky, they capture your attention. Once you are paying attention you can grow and evolve in a new way. Very often it is because you make a mistake that you learn something important. Feeling guilt is a way to get your attention so you can decide what to learn from something you did.

If you did something to intentionally hurt another person, guilt can help you realize it and even encourage you to make amends if you wish.

If your intentions were innocent but you still hurt someone, a guilty feeling can show you what you might want to adjust so it has the least possibility of happening again. You can never control how another person reacts or interprets what you say. If you feel guilty for another’s reactions, you need to assess the interaction and ascertain if the other person’s reaction is something you can legitimately claim as your fault.

If you are feeling guilty because others feel jealous of you and how your light is shining, it is important to find out what is really happening in this instance. Focusing on yourself and what is happening inside you, and not them, is an important shift you can make.

Many people carry guilt around as if it was a cross to bear. You might have been taught this in your family of origin or from other teachers. If someone tries to help or support you and you then feel guilty about it, you are blocking your ability to fully receive support from others.

Some people may feel guilt that if they own their own power it will cause harm to others, so they remain tied to emotional bonds that are outdated. Guilt may keep you in a powerless state of being because you fear breaking these ties.

Flower Essences for Guilt

Scorpion Weed

Scorpion Weed flower essence is the one to use for feeling guilty for making a mistake. It can help you forgive yourself for making the mistake and then learn something from it.

However, sometimes you may fear that you will make the same mistake again, and Scorpion Weed can support you with that, too. The essence helps you trust in your essential goodness and light and forgive yourself.

It can release you from things you did in your past for which you are blaming yourself. The essence helps you calmly face these things, looking at them realistically so they become emotionally manageable.

Scorpion Weed helps you realize that there are no absolute failures, only learning experiences that help you grow and evolve.

Soaptree Yucca

If you need support for ascertaining if someone’s reactions to something you said or did was actually your fault, Soaptree Yucca flower essence can help. Sometimes people will have a reaction to something you did or said and then blame you for their discomfort.

This flower essence can help you sort out whether their reaction is in fact your fault. If you are too easily influenced when someone challenges you, Soaptree Yucca can help you assess yourself and then trust and have faith yourself.

Part of self-empowerment is taking the time to assess yourself and then have faith in your interpretation. When you look clearly into the interaction, Soaptree Yucca can help you find inner perseverance to stay with what you know is right for the situation as you experienced it. Then, you can let the other person have their own interpretation and deal with their feelings without you taking responsibility for something that is not yours to own.

Red Root

One of Red Root’s patterns of imbalance is feeling guilty about your success because others resent or are jealous of it. In fact, you are probably really feeling guilty because others feel inadequate. If others see your success and feel their own inadequacy, those feelings belong to that person. Their feelings are not yours to solve or feel bad about.

It is a misguided sense of wanting the other person to feel better about themself. Yet there is nothing you can do about another’s feelings. They belong to that person to feel and resolve.

Red Root can help you own your own success and let your light shine. When your light shines it shows others that their light can also shine.

Crown of Thorns

If you have difficulty receiving support or life’s blessings without feeling you need to earn them, Crown of Thorns flower essence can help. And if you believe that you must suffer or pay a price to have a good life, this can help you evolve from that misinterpretation.

Crown of Thorns can help you find that there is nothing you must do or be in order to deserve a life of unconditional love and joy. It is your own interpretation of life that creates suffering and a sense of limitation.
“Crown of Thorns shows you that you do not have to [suffer or] pay a price to earn love. Just because you exist is reason enough to have unconditional love. For those who were raised by parents who acted like martyrs, this essence can help change your deep seated guilt about being alive.

The essence can help you learn to receive love and support without needing to earn it.

Silverleaf Nightshade

There are times in life when you need to cut ties with people who don’t really support you. This might evoke deep feelings of guilt that you will cause hurt to them.

Usually, at the root of this type of guilt is the fear of owning your power and the belief that wielding your power will be detrimental to another.

Silverleaf Nightshade helps you access the courage to cut appropriate ties that are holding you back from owning your own power. It helps you find the tough love you need to pull yourself out of a limiting situation.

Selecting the Most Appropriate Flower Essences

Not every flower essence mentioned above will be appropriate for every person’s specific needs. Different people have different issues. Usually, careful self-examination can clearly show you which of the above flower essences are most appropriate for you.

Though you can use more than one flower essence together, you probably will not need to use all of the ones mentioned here. After contemplating your relationship to this issue, select the flower essences that apply for you, or use an intuitive method to select among them. (For more information on how to do this, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.) A general guideline is to use four drops at a time, four times a day, in water. However, it is fine to follow your intuition and use them as often as you like. Most people find that they tend to use them more often in the beginning and less often towards the end of the cycle. Unless otherwise indicated, a cycle is usually two to four weeks. [more]

For information on how to clearly evaluate the effects of the essences you have used, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.