An exploration of flower essences you can use
to deal with frustration
- the feeling of being annoyed or upset, especially because of inability to change or achieve something
- the feeling that arises when you realize that a certain goal is more difficult to attain than you initially believed
- an opportunity to refocus your attention and/or learn more about yourself and the world
Frustration is a feeling of dissatisfaction often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems. When we make an effort at something and it doesn’t reap the desired result, we often feel as if we are spinning our wheels and become frustrated. We may end up feeling as if our time and energy is being spent to no avail and that our efforts are worthless.
However, frustration can often be the early stages of a later success. The situations that cause us initial frustration may be blessings in disguise, or bring us a needed shift of direction. How then can we deal with frustration? Following are a few flower essences that can help us turn frustration into a blessing.
Lack of Patience and Balance
Often, frustration can have a temporary stranglehold on your good sense. In your frustration, you focus more and more on trying to find a solution. You lose patience and your mind takes over and insists on its own way in attempting to solve the problem right now. It insists that it must find the solution all on its own, separate from your intuition and your other senses.
Crisis – Desert Emergency Formula can help bring you back into the present moment, where you can detach from your mind and become aware of the rest of your senses. If you can be fully present with yourself and out of the mental stranglehold, you may find that a little patience can reveal a solution. For any situation of frustration, whether it is big or small, this composite formula can help you find where a state of balance and harmony lies within you.
Frustration is often the result of seeing a situation as an obstacle to what you want. We are sometimes so focused on the goal that we lose sight that seeing obstacles are actually blessings in disguise. Obstacles can be a way for the Universe to have us change something so our final goal will be more perfect.
Canyon Grapevine flower essence can help turn apparent obstacles into building blocks. This plant is one of the few desert plants that grows entwined with others. As Canyon Grapevine grows up a tree trunk and bumps into a branch in its way, it doesn’t say, “Oh no, an obstacle, I’ll just have to stop growing.” Instead, it takes the apparent obstacle and uses it as the foundation around which to grow. It uses the obstruction as something that will give it shape and form.
In the same way, Canyon Grapevine flower essence can help you take a frustration and use it as a foundation for something in your life. When you are annoyed that in your busy schedule you have to deal with a leaky roof, for instance, how can this situation create a foundation around which to grow? Dealing with a leaky roof might be the blessing that keeps you from future serious damage to your house. What started out as a frustration might teach you something about your roof that will save you from a future disaster.
A Form of Distraction
Some of us use frustration as a way of distracting ourselves and avoiding feelings that are uncomfortable. Some folks rush around in their busy life, too preoccupied with getting things done and dealing with the frustrations that prevent effortless accomplishment. When they manage to have a little free time, they immediately fill the time up with more responsibilities and commitments, and things they think they ought to do. They go out of their way to create frenzied situations in which frustration will be inevitable. Living in a state of frustrated activity actually covers up feelings of imbalance, lack and limitation.
Jumping Cholla Cactus can help resolve a tendency to use frustration to cover up feelings of deep inner lack and limitation.
If you walk close to the plant, loose joints that litter the ground will attach themselves to the sides of your shoes. If you get close to the Jumping Cholla Cactus person, you may feel affected by their disjointed and obsessively worried and frustrated natures.
Jumping Cholla Cactus helps us recognize that we have an abundance of capabilities deep within ourselves and we do not have to use them to prove anything. It helps us to recognize the abundance that exists right within us. It helps us slow down and create balance and harmony in our lives. Its lesson is that we can take things one step at a time and live a life of peace.
A discouraged attitude about life can be at the root of some frustrations. If you have the feeling that you can never get ahead of the game in life, that there are always more obstacles, more work, more struggle, White Desert Zinnia can come to your aid. This lighthearted flower can support you in letting go of heaviness and over-identification with struggle and limitation.
Frustrations can too often suck the joy out of life. You end up taking yourself too seriously and forget the bigger picture outside of your mundane existence. White Desert Zinnia can help remind you to lighten up, to step back and let the light of laughter fill your life, take time out to play or do a simple thing that is fun. As it helps you release struggle and frustration, you begin to experience the play and wonder of life. The flower essence can bring you back to simple happiness and lightness.
Frustration is often the result of the world outside not conforming to the way we think it should be.
While it is necessary to deal with the events of our lives and take responsible action, many of us are excessively controlling. We attempt to plan out contingencies for every eventuality, so that we will not be surprised by unexpected situations.
Excessive planning and scheming can block or eliminate possibilities of which we cannot conceive. If we plan out every situation, we do not leave room for something even better to manifest.
The Universe Handles the Details Formula helps us surrender to Universal timing and a greater overview of events as they unfold. As we let go and allow the Universe to bring the unexpected, we often find that there are even better solutions to our frustrations than we could have found on our own. Sometimes we find that our frustration was all for naught, that the solution to our problem was something we didn’t yet know or that hadn’t come into being yet. The Universe Handles the Details Formula helps us give up the need to personally control all the details and solutions in life and turn our problems over to a Higher Power for resolution.
There is Always a Choice
Frustration can be a good thing if we allow it to show us where we need to refocus our energies. Once we recognize that we are frustrated, we are faced with a choice: to remain frustrated or to reap its rewards by adjusting our attitude and looking for frustration’s gift.
Selecting the Most Appropriate Flower Essences
Not every flower essence mentioned above will be appropriate for every person’s specific needs. Different people have different issues with frustration. The process itself of exploring and contemplating your frustration is important. It is the foundation for successfully selecting the most beneficial flower essences. Usually, careful self-examination can clearly show you which of the above flower essences are most appropriate for your particular needs.
Though you can use more than one flower essence together, you probably will not need to use all of the ones mentioned here. After contemplating your relationship to this issue, select the flower essences that apply for you, or use an intuitive method to select among them. (For more information on how to do this, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.) A general guideline is to use four drops at a time, four times a day, in water. However, it is fine to follow your intuition and use them as often as you like. Most people find that they tend to use them more often in the beginning and less often towards the end of the cycle. Unless otherwise indicated, a cycle is usually two to four weeks. [more]
For information on how to clearly evaluate the effects of the essences you have used, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.
Recommended Flower Essences
- Canyon Grapevine
- helps you turn apparent obstacles into opportunities
- Crisis-Desert Emergency Formula
- in any frustrating situation, the Crisis Formula helps you find inner patience, balance, and the ability to be fully present in the moment
- Jumping Cholla Cactus
- for those who subconsciously use frustration and worry as a way of distracting themselves and avoiding a hidden feeling that they are not as capable as other people
- Universe Handles the Details Formula
- helps you let go of your need to have everything the way you think it should be (control issues) and surrender to Universal timing and a greater overview of events as they unfold
- White Desert Zinnia
- for those who are frustrated and feel that they can never get ahead, that there are always more obstacles and who are over-identified with limitations and struggle