Awkwardness

An exploration of flower essences that address
the underlying causes of its discomfort

awkwardness

  1. The experience of feeling uncomfortable, embarrassed, nervous, or abnormal
  2. A state of being ungainly, not graceful or smooth, clumsy, lacking coordination

What is at the root of awkwardness? We are sometimes momentarily awkward with a situation in which we are unsure of our relationship to the situation. Some of us have a chronic awkwardness with specific types of situations. As a child grows, she may feel awkward with her body’s development. When we mature into a new aspect of being, no matter what our age, we are often awkward at first with the newness of it. If we learned about sex through an embarrassing interaction, we may be left feeling awkward in future expressions of sexuality. When we learn a new skill, we can feel awkward with its application until we master it.

Self-assurance in Innocence

We may experience moments of awkwardness when we feel out of our depth in a situation. A feeling of embarrassment, self-consciousness and uneasiness often ensues and we may resort to self-judgement for having gotten into the situation. Thank Heaven for Little Girls Formula can help you recover self-assurance in your innocence. There is a deep power in being innocent. Awkwardness often leaves you feeling as if you should have already known something that you couldn’t possibly have. When you are comfortable with your natural state of innocence, awkwardness passes quickly because you can own, or accept, it and move on. Thank Heaven for Little Girls Formula can help you understand that innocence comes from a state of purity. You never need to apologize for having at your core this wonderful quality.

Using Pretense to Cover Awkwardness

Have you ever felt awkward and then tried to cover it up by assuming a role or pretending to be something or someone that you are not? The problem with this strategy is that you may feel that you need to continue this role or persona when faced with the same situation or people again. While it might temporarily help in an immediate situation, the danger is that you could begin to try to make yourself into the persona you used.

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Mariola flower essence can help strip away insincere expressions or false personas you have created initially to cover up your awkwardness. This flower essence is wonderful for helping you let your light shine and be who you really are. It brings a congruence of your inner experience with your outer expression, which supports you in finding confidence in being yourself, even in an awkward situations. Mariola enhances enthusiasm in being yourself that can help you feel at ease, even in the most potentially awkward times.

Awkward with Sexuality

Women who never had proper support during menarche, the time of first menstruation, are often left feeling awkward with their sexuality. The Miracle at Menarche Formula can help a woman find inner support for the appropriate rite of passage of menarche. It is equally wonderful for those who are going through puberty and women of any age who had difficulty, or felt unsupported at that time. It’s never too late to go back and support yourself for what was lacking at puberty. I have found that many clients who were awkward with their sexuality were helped tremendously by using The Miracle at Menarche formula to establish a foundation of confidence.

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Those who feel awkward with sexuality may also be helped with Star Primrose. This flower essence is great if you tend to be “out of your body” or you deny your bodily sensations. Often you may channel your energy into mental pursuits or into your spirituality and neglect your body. Star Primrose can help you be more grounded and it enhances a sense of inner worth and self-esteem by helping you loosen up and relax into your body. It is helpful for those who repress their femininity and sensuality. It can help you find the joy of recognizing the beauty that you are.

Impatience with Yourself

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Awkwardness is often a temporary aspect of learning a new skill. This type of awkwardness is overcome simply by practicing the new skill until you have mastered it. Teddy Bear Cholla Cactus can help you if you are impatient with your learning process. It helps you have patience with the pace at which you learn and can change unrealistic self-judgement.

Lack of Maturity or Self-integration

Sometimes awkwardness is the result of a lack of maturity or self-integration. You might feel like a seed that is attempting to germinate according to its nature but struggling because of a lack of some elements vital to its nourishment. For all awkwardness with your physical body, you can consider using Salsify. It helps align your subtle energy bodies with the physical body, assisting in a better transduction of vitality to the physical level.

Salsify flower essence assists in bringing you to a higher stage of maturity and self-integration. This is a wonderful essence to use when you have attained a new aspect of being, but you are not yet comfortable with it. It’s as if you are ready for a new way of being, but you have not yet fully made it your own. Many folks who have used its flower essence have remarked that they felt as if they grew up, as if something matured emotionally within them, enabling them to move on feeling vitally alive and fully nourished by life.

Salsify is also for helping you if you feel awkward in your ability to bring your thoughts, ideas or creative impulses into manifestation. If you feel as if you are not receiving the nurturing energy necessary to support the expression of your full productive capabilities and potentials, this is the flower essence to use. It can help you tap into new sources of nourishment and vitalizing energy.

Different stages of life have different types of awkwardness. Exploring the root of your awkwardness and resolving it with one or more of these flower essences may give you a foundation of confidence to a future awkward situation with much more ease and grace.

Selecting the Most Appropriate Flower Essences

Not every flower essence mentioned above will be appropriate for every person’s specific needs. Different people have different issues around awkwardness. The process itself of exploring and contemplating your awkwardness issues is important. It is the foundation for successfully selecting the most beneficial flower essences. Usually, careful self-examination can clearly show you which of the above flower essences are most appropriate for your particular needs.

Though you can use more than one flower essence together, you probably will not need to use all of the ones mentioned here. After contemplating your relationship to this issue, select the flower essences that apply for you, or use an intuitive method to select among them. (For more information on how to do this, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.) A general guideline is to use four drops at a time, four times a day, in water. However, it is fine to follow your intuition and use them as often as you like. Most people find that they tend to use them more often in the beginning and less often towards the end of the cycle. Unless otherwise indicated, a cycle is usually two to four weeks. [more]

For information on how to clearly evaluate the effects of the essences you have used, see The Art & Technique of Using Flower Essences.

Recommended Flower Essences

Mariola
lacking confidence, enthusiasm, or truthfulness in self-expression; awkward as a result of trying to be someone you are not
Miracle at Menarche Formula
for awkwardness at puberty or resulting from situations that happened at that time
Salsify
all issues of awkwardness with your physical body; feeling blocked in your ability to grow and mature; feeling awkward in your ability to manifest or complete something
Star Primrose
self-consciousness and awkwardness that results in repressing femininity and sensuality
Teddy Bear Cholla Cactus
impatience with yourself for your awkwardness in the process of learning a new skill
Thank Heaven for Little Girls Formula
restores innocence and the self-assurance of innocence